“Lovely” spouse has an awful nasty streak. MNHQ have commented with this thread.

tammy are you currently pleased now? Yes We have tried speak to him , absolutely cant reach him. At me or laughs at me, is absolutely never moved by me if I cry he is either angry. We have wondered if he could be a bit psychotic. May be a sweetheart that is total. Do i really like him? Yes although not towards the detriment of my psychological wellness. We think we now have an extremely relationship that is bad.

These episodes happen about when a thirty days and final a week.

i’m pleased as i have always been now, its difficult as being a mum that is single i dont regret my choice. the thing i can recommend is you should do what exactly is perfect for your self along with your young ones. if you are unhappy, your young ones wont be. exp constantly complained that dd should have an effective household (as him being together) but i wasnt going to spend the rest of my life unhappy in me and. besides i was raised without having a dad, and I also think we proved fine. as well as its not like he cant see dd, although he doesnt exactly a lot of an attempt I think.

i dont really know very well what else to recommend regularhiding.

or theres counselling, but we do not understand if it will be of every assistance

regularhiding, i truly feel at you when you are crying (my ex did this to me a lot) for you and know what it’s like to have your partner laugh.

Can I simply state that I think these nasty streaks could get to become more and more regular which is negative so that you can feel you must walk on eggshells (or perhaps the kiddies as they begin to sense a stress floating around).

You can find 2 items that you could do. First, the next occasion he threatens to keep, phone his bluff and simply tell him “there is the door”. The main reason we state it is he understands which you think you cannot live without him in which he is playing about this (sorry however the expression “power journey” pops into the mind). Or you might take to asking him why he seems the requirement to be nasty for you, but I have the sensation this could either get laughed at or end it all on you with him being in a sh**ty mood/blaming.

Should you choose believe that the sole explanation you may be with him is the fact that you feel you mightn’t cope alone, then please understand that yes you are able to cope alone and that he is revelling when you look at the undeniable fact that he is able to treat you the way he likes as you could not keep him. I understand this from very very first hand connection with my ex. He additionally thought i really couldn’t cope for a long time) but he got a shock when his power trips backfired on him and I took my DS1 and moved 500 miles to get away from him without him around (so did I.

I am sorry if i have overstepped the mark or which you feel i’m being too harsh on your own spouse but exactly what he could be doing to you noises as being similar to just what my ex had been doing in my experience perhaps not a long time before he began hitting me personally

sorry to listen to this, regularhiding. I think hiddenspirit’s post makes a complete great deal of feeling, unfortunately.

This noises, at the minimum, like psychological abuse in my experience. Once you state these episodes happen once per month and final for per week, perhaps you have noticed virtually any pattern growing? will there be any such thing which appears to trigger them?

The worrying thing is that there *is* violence, simply not fond of you – yet. Perchance you need certainly to look for help that is professional. If he will not go, you could test speaking with your gp in the first place.

Absolutely think you have got problem here. Concur that towards you or the kids too if it carries on like this he may well get violent. Indicate a diary is kept by you of incidents and precisely what takes place within the run as much as them. Decide to try composing it from their viewpoint and from yours. Should allow you to exercise what their reasoning is and whether you’re willing to live along with it all or otherwise not. If he will not talk with you maybe he will at the least read everything you’ve written and started to realise which he requires assistance. For the time being i might form bullying into google and discover you skill to avoid your self being bullied. Additionally look up domestic punishment. Allow it keep on and you should lose your children’ respect as well as your self that is own self- confidence. Wonder if it is a effect to your AF or something regular at the job? Whatever, he can not act this way. You CAN manage without him!